To my 5 week long Tinder boyfriend,

To my 5 week long Tinder boyfriend,

Thank you. Thank you for proving to me that good, normal men use dating apps to meet people. Thank you for treating me better than any man ever has and for raising the bar for my future dating experiences. Thank you for reminding me that chivalry isn’t dead, and that men are still capable of opening the car door for us, and kissing our hands in public. Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to not be the smartest person in the room and for not laughing when I ask a question or say something that may sound stupid. If I’m asking, it’s because I actually do want to know the answer. Thank you for showing me your favorite places in the city of Austin. This great, beautiful city may seem small, but to a single person alone in this city its massive and overwhelming. Thank you for taking me to places where I have memories in the future with you and great times to think back on. Thank you for making the moving transition easier by finding comfort in you.

Thank you for showing me what it’s like to have a dreamer bigger than yourself. I’m so proud of how dedicated and committed to your dream you are. I can only wish that one day I feel that way about a career. Your dream requires a level of dedication that is so important to you that a romantic relationship isn’t possible, and you’re okay with accepting that fact.

But also, thank you for ending it when you did. For realizing that while we were perfect together, and we were, it wasn’t the right time in your life for you to be romantically committed to someone. Your honesty opened my eyes to the things that I needed to be focusing on right now, like my own mental health. For someone who has never suffered from anxiety and depression, these are two things I need to work through on my own. Without the help and encouragement from a significant other, that obviously might not be in my life forever. Its things like this that pushed me to take this adventure on my own. So that I could show the world, and more importantly myself, that I’m fully capable of taking this world on on my own.

Lastly, thank you for acknowledging that while we cannot move forward romantically, that developing a friendship is something that you’d still like to work on. I feel like more often than not this is something that women suggest but it never works out. I greatly appreciate the fact that you said this was something you’d like to continue, if I was okay with it. The level of comfort I had with you is something that I didn’t know existed in real life. It allowed me to be the fullest and realist version of myself, knowing that you accepted me however I chose to show up. I don’t have that level of closeness with some of the best guys friends in my life, and I found it in you within minutes of meeting you.

I can only hope that we truly do continue to grow closer as friends in the future.

With all my love,

Kristi

 

 

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Timing

I hate when people blame timing as a reason why something didn’t work out. Timing IS something you have no control over but how you choose to respond is a choice. 
I met a great man on tinder about 10 weeks ago that I have consistently spoken to. We made plans to go on a date the first Saturday night I was in my apartment in Austin, which is this upcoming Saturday. I reached out to him Monday night to touch base and he informed me that he’d recently met someone and it was really bad timing with me about to finally be in the same state. 

Here’s the thing. He made a choice. Between the two of us, he choose how he was going to react. And I didn’t get picked. Which is fine, while I enjoyed his attention when I got it, I’m not going to lose sleep over a man I’ve never even met before. What’s frustrating is that he apologized over and over again. Just own it. You made a choice. Timing is something we have no control of, but you were given a choice, a or b and you choose.

PS – I’m finally in the lonestar state. And so happy to be back! ♥️