Ive never considered myself a materialistic person, but I suppose that changed recently. Getting back into the dating world allows me to figure out what I want and what kind of person I’m looking for. A person who owns nice things isn’t required, but it’s what I’ve had for a long time.
I am all for working hard to have nice things. I own a Louis Vuitton bag myself. So I get it. But I worked my butt off for that bag, and paid cash for it. It was well earned and it’s been appreciated every day since I bought it.
I have seen this man three times now, including the one time he picked me up late from a bar and dropped me off at home. The other two real times were incredible. The first date we had pizza at my apartment and then took a bottle of wine down to DC and walked around the monuments. I’ve lived in DC my whole life and I’ve never done this. It was amazing. Definitely a wonderful night to remember. The second night out he took me on a long ride on his Harley! My butt is pretty sore, but I haven’t experienced that much fresh air in a very long time. It was a refreshingly nice change of pace for me.
These were both great encounters. And he is a wonderful guy. But he has things, and I thought these things were important to me. Like his boat, motorcycle, mercades, home ownership and 6 figure job. As it turns out, these things are not important. Or even required. As nice as they are, and he absolutely deserves to have them, I don’t know if I need any of it. Listening to him talk about his things, honestly isn’t attractive to me.
I’m not impressed by things the way that I thought I was. I’m also coming to realize how important other things are. Like good conversation, laughter and feeling comfortable. Things will not be around forever. And when they’re gone, what will the relationship have to keep moving forward?